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"Hard to find kids like that anymore. They were raised Old School.. a kick in the pants trumps a 'Time out' all the time."
Was just browsing the threads, saw the comment above, and figured that I would throw in my two cents.
First, I find it odd that you equate your daughter's ability to locate and use the proper tools with your giving her a "kick in the pants" when she was a wee lass. I would guess that it had more to do with you taking the time to teach her these things - and you are indeed a good man for doing so. Many parents do not.
Second, and I do not want to digress too far into the realm of politics, but 50+ years of research disagrees with you. Consider that nearly all death row inmates report that they got the belt/ugly stick as children....and they still ended up on death row.
Most kids these days would benefit from someone who provides them with structure and takes the time to teach them how to live. But I don't really see the value of giving the kid a "kick in the pants" as you put it. All of the research shows that it is no more or less effective than time outs or taking away privileges. Bottom line is that none of them are effective long term because they are (usually) not used as a "teachable moment" by the parent. As soon as the kid is out of sight and knows he/she is not going to get caught, they go back to doing whatever it was you smacked them for doing.
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