After I wrote I could hear the relay I question if that was true. I could hear the relay much louder than what I thought I was hearing before once i got it started. I actually couldn't hear it after saying I could hear it in a previous post so maybe I was wrong or things changed. Once I got it running which was on the first try after cleaning the black ground wires on the intake manifold I could hear the relay for sure.

If those grounds are fuel system related why wouldn't they cause the relay to not be grounded enough to allow for 12 v to pass through the relay. It seems like the most likely cause. I suppose I could set up the meter at the AMM and undo each ground one at a time to see what a bad connection or no connection would measure to confirm it has a direct effect on the AMM reading/relay.