Relays did nothing, but in fiddling with the fuse box and relays, I was able to cause something to cycle under the hood.

I was messing with the ABS pump fuse (which felt warm)

Rocking the fuse panel cause something to click on and off. when I checked the dash the lights were off.

I also recall that my ABS light seemed to linger for a while after I started the car. maybe related. I also recall reading that there's a known problem with the abs circuit under the fuse box...

I'm going to open take a look. for now, it looks to be back to "normal"


---edit---
I didn't find anything obviously wrong. The lights are still off and I'm back to normal operation.

Not tracing the problem conclusively doesn't give me good comfort. Although returning to normal operations might be good enough for this week.